funny situation this is - originally post here on dreamwidth under access list last week , just now crosspost to tumblr , and now port back over to dreamwidth because this version is slightly different from original with hopefully better clarity .

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think about how to try and word something , which is ... just hate agab as this cornerstone of identities and definitions . might work out fine for some people with really clear agab , but not everyone do . frankly , even those who do have binary classification might still have traits which break these expectations , which can massively complicate relationship with internal gender .

can not say one perfect answer to what trans definition should be , literally just some guys online here , but would much prefer to see focus on subversion of what others expect gender to be . that would mean everyday social factors , presentation , and more - agab and legal identification only one slice of that , and ideally would not be near as much of factor in future , if at all .

consider : two boys can grow up to be men with very different ideas of what manhood feel like , despite genders that apparently start out identical . so too is true of girls who become women , let alone boys who become women , girls who become men , and literally any other permutation out there , binary or not . seem weird to define transness by agab with considerations like this .

would that in effect widen what trans means ? maybe so . but would that really be so bad ? think , like plurality , transness is very much framework that everyone should get to personally define relationship with - certain experiences obviously major hallmarks , but that should only be start of considerations , not end .

not really big believer in idea of " normalise " when prefer for ideas of normal to not exist in first place . so maybe kossai just have faerie bias , but would like to have world where these kind of definitions become much less impactful on everyday life . not big deal to come out , not big deal to change , not difficult to gain access to chosen hormones and surgeries - freedom to do anything , and be anything , just simple facts of life .

( hm . maybe should get little graphic of intersex flag with faerie wings . )